You don’t like your life? Change it!
Change your life for the better! Don’t have any clue on how to do it? Here’s a
list of 100 ways in which you can improve your life. Feel free to add yours in
the comments. This post is a response from a challenge I got from from Mike
King in this great post 100 Ways To Be A Better Leader, which in turn got inspired by this one Tackle Any
Issue With A List Of 100 , from Luciano Passuello.
1. Accept Your Mistakes
You’re human. We, humans, are
making mistakes. Accept what you did wrong and try to do better next time. No
need to punish yourself forever. In fact, accepting your mistakes is the only
way to make them disappear.
2. Accept Your Friends Mistakes
Maybe you got hurt by somebody.
Happens. Just accept it and deal with it. People are making mistakes and if you
can accept that for yourself, accept it for your friends too. In the end, all
you need from them is their love.
3. Create A New Habit
We’re doing a lot of stuff on
autopilot. Try to integrate in this category new things you want to attract
into your life. Habits are powerful. Harness their energy for your own good.
Start by creating
a habit in 15 days.
4. Build Self Discipline
Don’t wait for other people to
impose discipline on you. Start early. Create your own discipline. Although it
sounds a little bit harsh, self discipline is a facilitator for many things in your life. It’s hard
to get but great to have.
5. Make New Friends
Reach out. Don’t be afraid.
Establish new contacts. The worst thing that may happen to you is to be
rejected. Well, if that’s the case, move on. The reward of having true,
long-lasting friendship is worth all the potential rejection.
6. Get A New Job
Shaking your comfort zone will
often create a lot of value in your life. If you’re not satisfied with your
job, just get a new one. The pitfall of not having money for a limited period of time is temporary, get over it.
7. Start A New Diet
You are, in a vast proportion,
what you eat. Trying a new diet would often be the only needed change for a
dramatic boost of your health and energy. Don’t necessarily have to be raw food, or
even vegetarian, whatever works for you.
8. Keep A Journal
Write down you feelings, your
ideas, your goals, your activity. Journaling is by far one of the most useful things I’ve done to
change my life for the best. It works in such a silent, yet effective way. All
you need is pen and paper.
9. Create And Keep A Morning
Phrase
Whatever you say to yourself in
the morning, it will most likely come true during the day. Why not taking
advantage of it? Create a simple morning phrase and say it to yourself first thing in the morning. Is
that simple.
10. Travel Far Away From Your
Home
Traveling long
distance is incredibly rewarding. It’s so exciting and full with
unknown events. I only recently started to travel really far away from my home,
but I do wonder how could I ever made it until now without this.
11. Learn To Take Risks
Your life may be so boring and
fade because… err, you made it like this? When was the last time your tried
something really difficult? When was the last time you challenged the odds
doing something risky? Do it now.
12. Start Your Own Business
Be your own boss. Work your own
hours. I know, it sounds so shallow, for you, who hate your job but still have
to stay there because of that mortgage. Well, unless you make the first step,
nothing is going to change. That’s for sure.
13. Change Your Work Space
Clean up your desk. Re-arrange
furniture. Add some color to that space. Make the place where you work really
enjoyable. So enjoyable that work there won’t be perceived as work anymore. It
will be something you love to do.
14. Learn A New Language
Challenge your mind. Constantly.
If you’re going to do number 10, you’re going to learn some new languages too.
From my experience, learning a new language is a fantastic mind opener.
Sometimes you don’t even have to travel there.
15. Find Reasons To Agree
Rather than disagree. We have this
mindset of competition which makes constantly arguing over things. Well, stop
that. You don’t have to force yourself intoagreement, if it’s not the case, just trying to find some reasons
will be enough.
16. Pay Yourself First
You can’t give something if you
don’t have it. You can’t spread light onto others if you don’t have light from
within. You can’t give wealth to others if you don’t have it for yourself
first. Make yourself a service and pay yourself first.
17. Wake Up Early
This is not a habit, this is a
lifestyle. Don’t just wake up early without a purpose. Be early. Be there before others. Look
for opportunities and embrace them. Waking up early means keeping your eye open
to every available opportunity.
18. Train Your Focus
Your focus is in fact your
reality. Use it wisely. Train it constantly for it will enhance your reality in ways you
never imagined. Keep your focus sharp as a razor blade and be prepared to
experience life in fantastic shapes and colors.
19. Start A Blog
On whatever topic you want. Not
only it will give you the opportunity to create something new and valuable but
it will also bring new people into your life. Blogging is far more than a hype,
is a personal
development tool. A very good one.
20. Write An Ebook
You may think you don’t have a
talent, but that’s completely wrong. And the easiest way to prove it wrong is
to start
writing an ebook. Any ebook. You pick
the topic. It might be something you know or want to learn about. Write it.
It’s fun.
21. Be Better, Not Perfect
Striving too much for perfection
will ruin your life. It will wipe out all those little imperfections which are
making you… human. Being better, on the other side, is rewarding. Look back at
the yesterday you and just say: I’m better!
22. Stop Self Sabotage
You’ll be surprised by how much
of a burden you can be to yourself. You are literallyself sabotaging.
Most of the time, unconsciously. If you have a long history of failure behind,
that could mean you’ve become your worst enemy. Stop it.
23. Find Reasons To Love Your
Life
Maybe life wasn’t fair with you.
Yes, I know, I’ve been there: life is never fair. But it’s fantastic. It’s
unique, unrepeatable, one of a kind, beautiful, simple, challenging, sweet,
hard… Just take a step back and find reasons to love your life.
24. Try Something New
Maybe you’re sad because you’re
bored. Have you ever thought about that? Just reach out and try something
completely new. Go for a challenge, learn a new sport, pick a different
restaurant or go for a comedy movie (if you’re the drama type). Justtry it.
25. Avoid Fighting
Fighting is the biggest energy
leak of your being. Trying to prove another guy wrong is so against your true
nature. You’re here to acknowledge life’s wonders, not to prove anybody’s
wrong. They’re not wrong, just have different opinions. And that’s part of
life.
26. Stop Wasting Your Power
Are you doing something that you
think you shouldn’t be doing right now? Well, that’s wasted power. That’s
meaningless stuff promoted to the honor of being a part of your life. How long
are you going to approve this? Why wasting power?
27. Learn To Ignore
I think they should be teaching
this one in schools. We’re so focused on so many topics and think we have to do
so many stuff, that our life is literally clogged with stuff. It’s good to do
stuff, but learning to ignore stuff is much better.
28. Experiment Gratitude
When was the last time you said
“thank you”? With all your heart? Everybody knows that an attitude of gratitude
is the key to success, but almost nobody practices it. Well, start by experience gratitude first, and take it from there.
29. Recycle Your Aggression
Don’t throw it away, recycle it!
Use it for something you really want! Call out those wild forces inside of you
and put them to work. Aggression is part of your being, so don’t try to reject
it, because it will only grow stronger. Recycle your aggression.
30. Release Your Guardians
Don’t touch that! Don’t eat
that! Don’t go for that opportunity! Those are the sentences you hear when
going for something you really want. Those are yourguardians,
your mental constructs made to protect you. Release them, you’ll be much better
off.
31. Clean Up Your House
It’s fun. And it’s good for you.
Make a habit out of cleaning up your house with joy and happiness. What’s outside is a mirror of
what’s inside. If your house is a mess, probably your internal life is a
disaster. Neat that stuff, it’s easy.
32. Write A Personal Mission
Statement
You’re here with a reason. No
matter how small you feel now, how insignificant others may made you feel, you
have a purpose. Take the time to write your personal mission statement. It will bring light and direction into your life.
33. Dissolve Negative Opinions
About Yourself
Whatever you think you may do,
it’s half of what you can really do. And that’s because you have so many negative
opinions about yourself. You can solve
them. Just accept the fact that you have them and then start working on them.
34. Build Different Skills
Don’t stop learning. Don’t
remain stuck in a single career, it’s boring and limiting. Learn different skills, possibly from completely unrelated fields. You never
know when life will ask you to use them. Besides, it’s a lot of fun.
35. Manage Your Time As You
Manage Your Money
Have you ever thought what would
be if you would manage your time the same way you manage
your money? Just give it a try. See
where you spend most of your time, what the return of investment is and how
rich are you in time.
36. Exercise
You don’t have to break the
world record, or something. Just make sure you exercise constantly. It will
make your body healthier and your mind clearer. It’s also one of the simplest
and most affordable ways to improve your life.
37. Be A Parent
Having kids doesn’t necessarily
means you’re a parent, and I know that very well. Being a parent will surely
change your life forever: filling it with unconditional, life lasting love,
care and warm feelings. You’ll live in love. And learn.
38. Throw Away One Object A Day
From Your House
Maybe your life is breathing so
hard just because it’s suffocated by objects. Learn to let them go. You may
donate them, give to charity or simply throw them away, but don’t let the
clutter stay in your way. You’re not the objects you have.
39. Read A Book Per Week
Or, alternatively, a fine
selection of blogs. That will keep your mind alert and your focus steady.
Reading is like good food for your brain, without it, it will go lazy, obese
and unresponsive. But with the proper food it can become your best friend.
40. Start A Monthly Challenge
Being it physical, mental or
social. Intend to acquire something new in your life in 30 days. Improve your
health using new methods, or your relationships by starting new things
together. Make it count. And count on it.
41. Call An Old Friend
It’s enlightening to meet
somebody you haven’t talk to in the last years. Go right now and call an old friend,
or a relative. It will bring up memories and it will create new opportunities.
Don’t let the dust settle on your relationships.
42. Follow A Coincidence
Well, there aren’t any
coincidences, I lied. Everything has a purpose. If you witness something which
may seem like a coincidence, then you’re very lucky, you just got a sign.
Follow it with trust, it will lead you well.
43. Play A Game
Any game. Just play. Like a
child. Allow yourself to do something just for fun, without any goals,
pressures or deadlines. Will make you understand that everything is a game.
Sometimes a little bit harder, but still a game..
44. Forgive Somebody Out Of The
Blue
Don’t hold that grudge for that
past insult. Grudges are heavy and tend to make the take off for a new life a
little bit difficult. The longer you hold that grudge, the more difficult the
take off will be. Forgiveness will lift you off.
45. Stop Solving The Wrong
Problems
You are not here to witness the
bad things in your life. Nor the performance in itself. You are here to enjoy a
journey. To become aware, To grow. So, stop solving the wrong problem and focus on what really matters.
46. Make Peace With An Old Enemy
That’s more than forgiveness,
that’s the actual process of reversing a situation. Make peace with somebody.
Turn it into your friend. I’m not saying this is easy, I know it first hand.
But I also know it works. Enemies count down, friends count up.
47. Make A Promise To A Close
Person And Keep It
It doesn’t have to be something
big. It doesn’t have to be for someone special. It doesn’t have to be difficult
also. But it has to be a commitment to somebody. Just reach out, make a
promise, keep it and then enjoy the feeling after.
48. Break Up With A Person You
Don’t Really Like
Maybe you’re friend with
somebody just by habit, chemistry being dead for a long time now. Just break it
up. Tell him. Ok, let’s unfriend us, this will not work. It will bring up
something you thought you lost it long ago: courage.
49. Get A Thing You Wanted For A
Long Time
But you didn’t had time or money
to get it. Just go out and get it. Not only it will boost your self-respect,
but it will also free your desire channel, which may be a little bit clogged by
having one and only one desire for such a long time.
50. Stop Being Judgmental
With others AND with you. Excessive
criticism will kill your enthusiasm. And if you think this post is something
you shouldn’t read in the first place, then, my friend, you really are
judgmental. Lighten up. Accept life as it is.
51. Change Your Wardrobe
You don’t know how much are you
tied to what you wear. If you’re on the gray loving side, put some color in
your clothes. If you’re on the black and white, try some gradients. Of course,
your clothes are not you. Hence, they’re so easy to change, right?
52. Smile At Least 10 Times A
Day
And I mean it, start to count
that. Smiling is a sign of honesty and power. Everybody can cry over a disaster
but only the most powerful can take bitterness with a smile. Exercise that
power. And then try to go for 20 times a day.
53. Burn Some Old Memories
Maybe the notebook from your 7th
grade? Maybe the teenage dumb poetry you wrote? Whatever it might be, break up.
It might be difficult, but it might also be a sign that you’re so attached to
the past that you can’t advance in your life anymore.
54. Plant A Tree
Or take care of a flower. Do it
for at least several months. It will give you a sense of potential. Seeing that
tree or that flower growing will make your self-confidence go up. If a flower
can make it, why can’t I? Of course you can, now do it!
55. Move To Another Town Or
Country
Maybe it’s time to change the
environment? Take the plunge, move over. Pick another town or even another
country. Like all the good stuff, it might be pretty difficult in the
beginning, but you can bet it would shake everything really good!
56. Join A New Group
Go to a bikers meeting. Or, if
you’re not a biker, to a toastmaster meeting. Join a group and see how you fit
in. It will help if the group will be focused on some of your passions, of
course. It will reveal a lot about your social skills.
57. Stop Watching TV
Television evolved a lot from
the balanced news provider it was in the beginning up to the current
manipulating tool. Just stop watching it for a week. And then for a month.
Meanwhile, assess your psychological progress. You may be amazed.
58. Start A Totally Unexpected
Hobby
Start making trains out of
matches. Raise cobras. Put tiny vessels into tiny bottles. Do whatever it takes
to move your mind from your problems for a while. And if you can create
something nice in the process, why not doing it?
59. Randomly Hug A Stranger On
The Street
Ok, this might be a little bit
dangerous, but only if you think at it. If you’re doing it, chances are that
you’re going to get your hug back. It will also help raising your adrenaline up
to levels you never had for a very long time.
60. Set Up A Surprise Party
For your or for a friend. It’s
always good for your mood, even if – or especially if – you’re down. Do a
thematic one, invite friends and tell them to bring their friends. And then
expect to meet new, wonderful persons. And of course, have fun.
61. Go Hiking
Do it for at least one week-end.
Nature is more powerful than our human created environment. We don’t know how
to channel the energy into our artificial habitats. If you want to recharge, go
outside and stay in connection with the wilderness.
62. Get A Pet
Whatever works for you, a bird,
a guinea pig, a dog or a cat. It will keep you alert and it will cheer you up
when you’re down. Taking care of a pet is also easier if you’re overwhelmed
with human interaction. Even from a pet, love is still love.
63. Write A Thank You Letter
You can send it or not, the real
catch is to write it. Pick someone who helped you in the past. Start writing
the letter and say everything you want to say to that person. It will make you
understand what are you really grateful for in your life.
64. Meditate Daily
It’s the easiest thing you can
do. True mediation acts like a mind emptier, leaving you open to the whole flow
of the sensations and experiences you would otherwise ignore. You don’t even
need a complicated technique, meditate as you see fit.
65. Say Something Nice To
Somebody
Just like that. Out of the blue.
Pick an unknown person and say something nice. After the initial surprise
you’ll be amazed by the unmasked joy and gratitude they’re expressing. Admit
it: you would like that too, isn’t it?
66. Say Something Nice To You
Ok, but if nobody is telling you
nice things, why not start this yourself? Do it in whatever form you think it’s
appropriate: send yourself emails, write in your calendar or leave yourself
nice postits on the desk. With something nice just for you.
67. When I Doubt, Improvise
Being so scared for not knowing
the answer, so nervous that you may screw thigns up… I know the feeling, I’ve
been there too. Just go with the flow. Improvise. It will be so good for your
unconscious mind. The real answer will be surprising.
68. Don’t Argue, Win Or Lose
This goes hand in hand with
avoiding the fight, but it’s a little bit different. If you get caught in an
argument, just accept that you can have only two outcomes from it: win or lose.
Settle with one and just move on.
69. Stop Faking Your Life
It’s so easy to get caught in a
flow of fakes. Society wants us to politely lie and you need to lie sometimes.
Just stop it. Being
authentic is the best thing you can do. No need to hide your
sorrow, nor your joy. They’re both part of life.
70. Define Goals
Again, that goes hand in hand
with writing a personal mission but it’s more than that. It’s the habit of
clearly deciding – and, subsequently, describing – where you want to go. Do you
have a goal? A passion, maybe? Go for it! And be verbose.
71. Help Others
Reach out and try to see if you
can help others. You don’t have to be a Samaritan, just go out there and
support somebody. The biggest trick of helping is really surprising: although
it seems you’re giving, you’re in fact receiving a lot more.
72. Go Social
Mingle, interact, go out. Get
used to meet new people. Make this a habit and you’ll soon get used to do new
things too. The goal is not to be the best networker in the world, but to be
connected to as many energy sources as you can get.
73. Spend Some Time Alone
Subsequently, make sure you set
aside enough time for your own. You don’t necessarily need to recharge, but you
need this time in order to get a new perspective. Stop for a while and look
around. Where are you? Where do you want to be?
74. Fix Something By Yourself
Go fix a broken window, or a
scratch on your car. Don’t call for a specialist, get involved, see how you can
have an impact on things around you. Work with your hands, prepare to sweat. It
will instantly make you feel better.
75. Create Value
Make things that others need
too. Make something useful. Don’t follow blind or outdated commitments, go for
what really makes a change around you. Creating value is the core of your activity here and the only thing you
really have to strive for.
76. Do A Random Act Of Kindness
Doesn’t have to be in the form
of a nice compliment this time. You don’t even need to communicate it to the
target person. Just do an incognito service to someone. See how this makes you
feel. Think how many times you received that.
77. One More Second
Create the habit of looking at
things for one more second. Spend one more second before taking an important
decision. Delay something. Time will follow your intention and open some
unexpected window for you. Slow it down a little.
78. Understand What People Want
From You
What you can do is not always
what people want from you. Clearing that confusion alone could bring an immense
relief to your life. You don’t have to immediately provide what they’re
wanting, but if you do, you may have some
big surprises.
79. Break An Old Bad Habit
Breaking a bad habit is
difficult. But breaking an old bad habit will free an incredible amount of time
into your life. Quit
smoking or stop talking on the phone for hours. Whatever you
break, it will change your life for the best.
80. Stop Complaining
Complaining is like an open
invitation for troubles. The more you complain about something, the more of
that something you invite into your life. Cut it out. You don’t get any comfort
out of complaining, only troubles.
81. Reject What You Don’t Want
It’s so simple, yet so
underrated. Society wants us to complain even when we don’t really like stuff.
Like forcing us to smile when we don’t find it funny. Allow yourself to walk
away from something you don’t like. Just do it!
82. Being Is Better Than Having
Too much and too often we shape
our life’s fulfillment degree to the amount we possess. The fundamental
mistake. If you’re doing it, stop it right now. You’re not what you’re having. Being is so much better than
having.
83. Listen To Your Critics
This one might be difficult in
the beginning but once you get used to it it’s fantastic. You may find out a
lot of stuff about yourself that you didn’t know about. You think you are one
kind of person, but others may disagree.
84. Don’t Take It Personally
Never. Your world is shaped by
your reaction to things, not by the things themselves. Don’t get upset, don’t
think that somebody knows you enough to make right assumptions about you.
Acknowledge and move on.
85. Laugh
This time is not about smiling.
It’s about laughing. Don’t you ever miss another opportunity to laugh.
Especially at yourself. The longer your laughing sessions, the shorter your
misery ones. Looks like a nice deal, isn’t it?
86. Go With Passion
Don’t let your rational mind
stand in the way of your passion. If you found – or at least felt, even
occasionally – something that thrills you, you’re there. You don’t need a
confirmation on this from anybody. Go with your passion.
87. Trust Your Emotions
Don’t underestimate your
emotions. Or overestimate them. Your emotions are your feed-back system and for that they are very
important. Trying to ignore your emotions is like depriving yourself from
lights in a car running in the middle of the night.
88. Live It Like A Holiday
Ever observed how nice you feel
during your holiday? How light, joyful and authentic? Everything is just
wonderful. Well, you are on a continuous holiday here. It starts with your birth and end with your death.
Live it like a holiday.
89. Make A Story Out Of It
Do you like a good story? I love
it. Make everything in your life story-worthwhile. Make it as it would be a
fantastic journey and you will be at all time the observer, the hero and the
narrator. Create the story of your life.
90. Stop Being A Follower
Admiring is nice. But being
admired is even better. Stop trying to fit in other people’s shoes. Find your
own path. If that means breaking up completely your lifestyle, so be it. If you
are “like” somebody else you can’t be “like” yourself anymore.
91. Watch Your Beliefs
Your beliefs are not you. But
they are shaping your life constantly. You have the power to change them at any
point in your existence. But in order to do that, you must first start to
observe them, to isolate them, to accept them.
92. Stop Lying
To others and to yourself.
Although it might ease a complicated situation, a lie is not good in the long
run. The trick is that if you’re telling a lie you’re altering your reality.
And a distorted reality will be impossible to handle.
93. Stop Reacting To Stuff
And start acting on stuff.
Initiate things. Start projects. Predict situations and be there before the
hurricane hits. Reacting to stuff is a victim paradigm. Stop being a victim and
start acting. Create your life instead of being the creation of others.
94. Live Today
Not yesterday, not tomorrow. Go
for what you can do today and leave yesterday behind for good. It’s not here
anymore. And tomorrow doesn’t even exist yet, so why bother. All you have is
today. Don’t waste it.
95. Expect The Unexpected
If there’s something unusual
that happens to you, go for it. The unexpected is a signal of an opportunity.
It will not always be nice, this unexpected, but whenever it’s around, magical
things are happening. Wait for it. Praise for it.
96. Enjoy
Like being in joy. Like giving
permission to yourself to extract joy from any situation you’re in. Even if
it’s bad. Or especially if it’s bad. Joy is everywhere, you just have to let it
manifest through you. Don’t resist joy. Don’t reject it.
97. Make Your Own Rules
And stick with them. Go for what
works for you, not the others. Go for what you want, not the others. Including
me. Make your own system and be proud of it. You may upset some people in the
process, but hey, that’s life.
98. Love
Unconditionally. Totally.
Constantly. Restlessly. Love is the only glue that keeps your life running. You
were born out of love and you carry it deep down in your being. Love is never
about the others, it’s about you.
99. Get Rid Of Labels
Things are what they are. Don’t
use labels anymore, use directly the things. Your notion of “right” and “wrong”
are nothing but labels. In a different country your “right” might be “wrong”.
Don’t charge yourself with this unneeded burden.
100. No Regrets
Regretting something is another
form of not accepting reality. What you can do about it now? It’s gone. It
doesn’t exist anymore. Focus on what you can change: your present moment. Not
yesterday, not tomorrow. Now. Live now.
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